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Radical Reorientation, Not Behavior Management
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Radical Reorientation, Not Behavior Management

I mentioned CCC 1431 yesterday, but it's worth diving deeper because this one paragraph dismantles everything the world tells you about recovery. The Catechism says: "Interior repentance is a radical reorientation of our whole life, a return, a conversion to God with all our heart, an end of sin, a turning away from evil, with repugnance toward the evil actions we have committed. At the same time it entails the desire to change one's life, with hope in God's mercy and trust in the help of his...

Denial Is Keeping You Sick

Denial is not a river in Egypt. It's the thing keeping you sick. You're in denial about how bad it really is. You tell yourself: "It's not that big of a deal" "I can stop whenever I want" "It's just stress, once things calm down I'll be fine" "Other guys have it way worse" "I'm not hurting anyone" Every one of those statements is denial. And denial is the #1 barrier between you and freedom. You can't recover from something you won't admit is a problem. You can't heal from wounds you won't...

Are You Really Deleting It?

God: "Delete." Me: "Move to Trash." Temptation: "Restore file?" You know exactly what this means. God tells you to cut something out. Delete the app. End the pattern. Remove the trigger. And you do... sort of. You move it to trash. You hide it. You tell yourself you're done with it. But you don't actually delete it. You keep it there, just in case. And the moment temptation whispers, "Restore file?" you click yes. Jesus didn't say, "If your right eye causes you to sin, move it to trash and...

Your Daily Software Update Against Lustware

Every phone, every computer, every device you own needs regular software updates. Without them, you're vulnerable. Malware creeps in. Viruses attack. The system crashes. Your recovery works the same way. Connection is your daily software update against lustware. Lust thrives in isolation. It grows in secrecy. It feeds on disconnection. The days you skip your accountability call, avoid your meeting, isolate in your head—those are the days you're most vulnerable to relapse. But when you stay...

Sunday Reflection: 3rd Sunday of Lent- You're Drinking From the Wrong Well

This Sunday, the Church takes us to a well in Samaria where Jesus meets a woman who's been looking for love in all the wrong places. First Reading: Exodus 17:3-7 The Israelites are dying of thirst in the desert. Instead of trusting God, they grumble against Moses: "Why did you bring us out of Egypt to die of thirst?" God tells Moses to strike the rock, and water flows. God provides even when His people doubt Him. Your recovery is the same: you're thirsty for something real, and God will...

"Walk into the Fire." -Dr. Eddie Capparucci

Dr. Eddie Capparucci has a recovery principle that will change your marriage: "Walk Into the Fire." Here's what he means: your wife may seem calm on the outside, but inside there's a consistent storm of anxiousness. The betrayal you caused doesn't just disappear because she's not actively talking about it. She's managing pain every single day, even when she looks fine. And most men avoid that pain because it's uncomfortable. You don't want to bring it up. You don't want to "make things...

Don't Leave the Space Empty

When you give something up, fill the space with God—or sin will fight for the vacancy. You can't just stop acting out and expect the void to stay empty. Nature abhors a vacuum. So does addiction. Here's what happens: you get clean from lust. You're staying sober. You've gone weeks, maybe months without acting out. You think you're winning. Then suddenly you're drinking more. Or binge eating. Or gambling. Or shopping compulsively. Or losing yourself in video games, work, exercise, anything to...

If trauma can be passed down generation to generation, so can healing!

Marnie Ferree, founder of Bethesda Workshops, said it perfectly: "If trauma can be passed down generation to generation, so can healing!" You know trauma gets passed down. You've seen it in your own family. Maybe your father struggled with anger, addiction, or emotional distance. Maybe your grandfather did too. The patterns repeat. The wounds compound. Generation after generation carries the same brokenness. Science backs this up. Studies show that trauma affects not just the person who...

Feast of St. Casimir: Integrity Is Possible, Even When Temptation Is Everywhere

Today the Church celebrates St. Casimir, Prince of Poland and Lithuania, who lived chastity in a court culture of indulgence. I didn't know much about him until I read up...and I'm glad I did! He was royalty. Surrounded by wealth, power, and every temptation imaginable. The culture around him celebrated excess and self-indulgence. No one would have questioned him if he'd lived like everyone else. But he didn't. St. Casimir chose purity in a place where purity was mocked. He chose integrity...

Feast of St. Katharine Drexel: Stop Clinging, Start Surrendering

Today the Church celebrates St. Katharine Drexel, an American heiress who inherited a fortune and gave it all away. She could have lived in luxury for the rest of her life. Instead, she founded schools, built missions, and spent her entire inheritance serving the poor and marginalized. She didn't just donate some of her wealth. She gave it all away and became a nun. Let us learn from her that clinging to what we think we need will destroy us. Surrendering it will set us free. That's recovery....