All Souls Day: Memento Mori: Are You Living Like You Want Heaven?
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Today is All Souls Day. Let's do two things: pray for the dead, and remember that we will join them. Memento mori. So ask yourself honestly: am I living like I want to get to heaven? Good, holy sobriety is that answer in action. Here’s what it looks like:
Working your recovery is one of the best ways to prepare to die well. None of us knows the day or the hour. Tomorrow's not promised to anybody. We pray it every time we say the Hail Mary: “pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.” Recovery is how “now” gets ready for “the hour.” “Therefore he made atonement for the dead, that they might be delivered from their sin.” [2 Maccabees 12:46] “From the beginning the Church has honored the memory of the dead and offered prayers in suffrage for them.” [CCC 1032] Pray for your dead today. Offer a Mass, a rosary, or a simple “Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord.” One day someone will pray for you, so live in a way that gives them good news to pray about. And for the betrayed wife reading this: if you’ve lost someone, or lost the marriage you thought you had, grief is real today. Pray for your dead, and let yourself be comforted too. You’re not alone in it. 2 Practical Tips: To Battle Lust: Picture your own funeral for one minute. Ask what you’d want said about how you lived, then make one choice today that matches it, like deleting an app, booking Confession, or calling your accountability partner. Don't do this exercise for your ego. Do it for your legacy and your family. To Help Your Wife Heal: Tell her you want to live like a man headed for heaven and repair what you’ve damaged, ask what would help her trust that, then listen without defending. “I want my life to point toward God and toward you. What would help you see that?” Don’t demand anything in return. If deeper disclosure is needed, do that with a coach or therapist present. Pray for the dead. Live for heaven. Stay sober today. Join Inner Child + Beyond Group here. Remember, "You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you!" [Philippians 4:13] —Steve Join a FINALLY FREE! GROUP here. 🎙Listen to the Podcast: Catholics Fight Porn here. Sign up for a Daily 'Boost' TEXT for Motivation here. Book a 20-minute Intro Discovery Call here. Book a 1:1 Session w/Steve here. Read past Newsletters at the BLOG. Donate to CFP to support this work here.
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