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Your Secrets Are Termites and the Floor is Already Being Eaten
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Your Secrets Are Termites and the Floor is Already Being Eaten

Termites don't announce themselves. That is the whole problem. They work quietly, invisibly, from the inside out. You walk across the floor every day and nothing seems wrong. Until one morning the floor gives way and you are hurt and standing in the damage wondering how you missed it. Secrets work exactly the same way: The lie you told two years ago. The acting out nobody knows about. The version of yourself you have been presenting to your wife, your kids, your friends, your priest, that...

Tonight - Free - One Hour - Undivided Heart Parts Work Info Session

Tonight. 8:00 PM Eastern. One hour. Free. The Undivided Heart Program information session is happening tonight on Zoom and if you have been on the fence about whether this is for you, this is the hour that answers that question. This will be an honest conversation about what Parts Work actually is, what the Undivided Heart Program is designed to do, and whether this group is the right next step for where you are in your recovery right now. Here is what Parts Work addresses that most recovery...

Sunday Reflection: 21st Sunday in OT- Who Do You Say He is and Does Your Recovery This Week Actually Reflect That?

Today the Church celebrates the 21st Sunday in Ordinary Time, Year A. Here's my reflection... First Reading, Isaiah 22:19-23God strips the unfaithful Shebna of his office and hands the key of the House of David to Eliakim. One man out, one man in, the authority entrusted and the office continuing. The Church must pair this reading with today's Gospel deliberately. Eliakim is the steward of David's household carrying the key on his shoulder. Peter is the steward of the new David's household...

You Know It's Tough - St. Josemaría Knew it Too

St. Josemaría Escrivá did not write soft spiritual encouragement. He wrote like a man who understood the interior battle firsthand and had no patience for men who were losing it while pretending otherwise. I love his direct, challenging writing style. He said: "It's hard! Yes, I know. But, forward! No one will be rewarded - and what a reward! - except those who fight bravely." Source. That's it. No softening [yes, we love the easier, softer way]. No footnotes. Just the truth about what...

Yesterday's Feast: Saint Bernard- Nature Does Not Have an Algorithm Designed to Destroy You

Today is the Feast of St. Bernard of Clairvaux. Doctor of the Church. Founder of Clairvaux Abbey. And a man who spent enough time in the woods to know something the screen will never teach you. He wrote in one of his letters: "Believe me, you will find more lessons in the woods than in books. Trees and stones will teach you what you cannot learn from masters." Source. He was not being poetic. He meant it literally. Get off the screen. Get outside. Here's some reasons it helps: Nature...

New POD ?- The Undivided Heart: Catholic Parts Work w/ Jared Schiemer

Episode #63: The Undivided Heart: Catholic Parts Work with Jared Schiemer Listen HERE.Steve opens the episode by introducing the saint of the day on recording, St. Clare of Montefalco, and connecting her inward, Christ-centered self-examination to “parts work” as a path to healing. He interviews Jared Schiemer, a certified life coach trained in IFS-informed parts work, who explains how he discovered the modality through somatic-based sessions, therapy, and training with IFS founder Dr....

St. John Paul II Knew the Antidote to Lust - Here it is

St. John Paul II wrote something amazing in his book, Love and Responsibility... "A person's rightful due is to be treated as an object of love, not as an object for use." Every lustful thought does the opposite. It reduces a person made in the image and likeness of God to a means to an end. Not a human being with a name, a story, a soul, a family. A thing. Something to be consumed and discarded. That is what lust does to its object and that is what it does to the man doing the lusting. It...

Weeds Don't Take Over Overnight - Pull 'em Before they Root

Weeds do not take over a garden overnight. It starts with one seed that landed quietly and did not get pulled. Then it roots. Then it spreads. Then one morning you look at what used to be something beautiful and you cannot find it underneath everything that moved in while you were not paying attention or didn't feel like dealing with. Intrusive thoughts work exactly the same way. The thought that shows up uninvited is not the problem. Every man in recovery gets those. The problem is what...

The Manager is Exhausted. the Firefighter is Reckless. the Exile is Why. FREE INFO NIGHT 8/24 -8PM ET

Let me introduce you to three people you already know: The Manager. He is the part of you that works overtime to keep everything under control. Plans ahead. Avoids risk. Makes sure nobody finds out. He is exhausted and he is running your life. The Firefighter. He is the part that shows up when the pain gets too loud and the Manager cannot hold it together anymore. He does not care about consequences. He just wants the fire out. Right now. He is the one reaching for the screen at 11 PM. The...

Sunday Reflection: 20th Sunday in OT - Three Times She Was Turned Away - She Never Left - What About You?

20th Sunday in Ordinary Time, Year A Here's my reflection... First Reading, Isaiah 56:1, 6-7God speaks through the prophet Isaiah for everyone: foreigners, outsiders, people who did not grow up inside the covenant, are welcome on His holy mountain. His house shall be called a house of prayer for all peoples. [Isaiah 56:7] If you have been telling yourself that your past puts you outside the reach of what God is offering, the Prophet is speaking directly to you today. Responsorial Psalm, Psalm...