Election Day: You Can’t Control the Outcome, Only Your Part
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It’s Election Day. Recovery teaches us to show up even when the outcome is uncertain. Today is no different. Do your part. Go vote. Let God handle the rest. Here’s the truth recovery taught me: you can’t control the outcome, only your part. We keep our side of the street clean. You don’t get to control whether your wife trusts you again. You don’t get to control every trigger or every hard day. What you control is what you do today: the call, the meeting, the honest conversation. You do your part and leave the results to God. Voting is the same. You can’t control the outcome, only your part. So show up. Scripture says, “The human heart plans its way, but the LORD directs the steps.” [Proverbs 16:9] The Church says, “...make it morally obligatory to pay taxes, to exercise the right to vote, and to defend one’s country.” [CCC 2240] So make a plan. Know where you’re voting. Pray before you go. Then cast your vote with a clear mind, and let go of the rest. And for the betrayed wife reading this: elections can bring a lot of stress and tension into a home, and your heart may already be carrying plenty. You can’t control the outcome either, only your part, and you’ve been doing yours. Go easy on yourself today. God sees it. 2 Practical Tips: To Battle Lust: Election Day means a lot of screen time with news, social media and endless scrolling, and that’s where a slip can sneak in. Decide now how long you’ll spend online, stay off the doomscroll, and keep the phone out of the bedroom tonight. To Help Your Wife Heal: Ask her how she’s feeling about today and listen without defending or debating. “What’s been weighing on you this week? I’d like to hear it.” Don’t demand anything in return. Your part today: go vote. Let God handle the rest. Join Inner Child + Beyond Group here. Remember, "You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you!" [Philippians 4:13] —Steve Join a FINALLY FREE! GROUP here. 🎙Listen to the Podcast: Catholics Fight Porn here. Sign up for a Daily 'Boost' TEXT for Motivation here. Book a 20-minute Intro Discovery Call here. Book a 1:1 Session w/Steve here. Read past Newsletters at the BLOG. Donate to CFP to support this work here.
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